The comparison game


I love Instagram and Pinterest.
It’s a great place to draw inspiration and see what others are up to.
It’s also a place where if I’m not careful all those nagging voices in my head start saying;

Your not good enough

Look what there doing

You need to try harder, be better, do more


In the past, I have listened to them and agreed.
 I should be doing what they are, I need to be creating amazing images to post on Instagram and I should really try to craft more with the kids so I can make amazing collages for their bedroom.
These are the voices that spurred the Slowly Lived idea on.
Why should I compare myself to others when we only see a few select images they have no doubt taken the time to style and quite possibly completed courses to get to that level?
Why should I feel bad for not making handmade gifts for Teachers presents?
Who said that I have to be like them?
As much as I love social media, if it is used as a benchmark for what I should be able to achieve, I find it toxic.
I wish I could create beautiful images to share on Instagram and maybe one day I will take a course and devote time to experimenting and exploring the finer arts of photography. I hope I do but until then I will sit back, admire, like and comment on these images knowing  and appreciating the skill involved to produce it.
What do you think? Do you feel the same as I did?
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17 Comment

  1. Definitely no point comparing because whether professional or not we all have our own way of doing things, there is not right or wrong and what someone sees as bad someone else sees greatness in it 🙂

  2. You sum it up perfectly at the end. I'm slowly learning that admiring someone elses talent does not in any way take away from my own #PoCoLo

  3. It can happen, but I try not to compare, more 'inspire' 😉

  4. We felt the same way as you when we started blogging…it's hard not to compare but everyone has their own journey to lead and style. It's lovely when you find and master your own 🙂 xx

  5. Great post. I used to feel like this but then I had a bit of an epiphany. I pride myself on being an honest blogger so my instagram and pinterest are honest too. I try my best to make them look nice but they are real, they are us and I'm proud of that. There are enough people making their lives look better than they are for the sake of strangers. I don't wish to be one of them.x

  6. I love instagram as a record of the fun we have had as a family. I am not one to do over-styled photographs, insta in my mind means instant and gram – post. I don't compare my feed to others, each to their own :0)

  7. I'm no photographer, I just try to post pictures that I like, of interesting things or places. I like seeing what my friends are up to by what they share on there too.

  8. Don't compare yourself to others. You do the best you can and every time you try to do it better.

  9. I used to know someone who was a magazine stylist. She produced the most beautiful images often tagged as being in her own house. In real life she had one room for styling and the rest of the house was a mess and so was her personal life! I'd rather kept it real all the time!

  10. Comparison definitely is the killer of joy. I like to see the pretty images and just know they are not me. Mich x

  11. I love Instagram and use it every day but I use it but for me and not for the sake of my blog- my blog name isn't even in my profile. I think a lot of bloggers use it as an extension of their blog which can be when you see the perfect pictures sneak in or the sneak peaks of blog posts and that's when I'm not keen x x

  12. It took me a long time to learnt that I had to stop comparing myself to others. One of my favorite quotes is "comparison is the thief of joy" and it is so true. But I still find myself looking at instagram feeds and knowing that I couldn't live like that and realising that it is just a curated content and nor real!

  13. I totally agree – I love having a nose at what others are doing, but have to stop comparing myself and my family to others. Great post. Kaz x

  14. I learnt fairly early on that Pinterest might give us what looks like perfection but true perfection is achieved when your possibly less than ideal creation is met with squeals of delight from happy children who do not demand perfection. #pocolo

  15. I love Pinterest and Instagram too but while I try to have nice pins/pictures I'm not aiming for perfect as that's not who I am, and what's perfect anyway? Thanks for linking up to #PoCoLo

  16. I love to scan through the images and like/share them. I am not, however, creative like that. I'm a rubbish photographer, and I could never make my own perfect-looking [insert amazing thing here]. I think Pinterest and Instagram just fuel our self-hatred/self-esteem issues. Nobody is perfect, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Let's revel in that instead. 🙂
    Thanks for linking to #PoCoLo

  17. I definitely agree although then my eyes glances to the left and saw your beautiful sunrise photos on Instagram and they are amazing! I think it can be a really positive place of sharing and seeing what people are up to but not allowing yourself to feel inferior. I am guilty of that too though!

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